This handbook is intended as a light hearted approach to the journey of males and females as they pursue their best self and a mate. The focus of this handbook is on heterosexual relationships, not by exclusivity, but the limits of the authors in their practical experiences and sexual preferences. The authors for the record, have 7 glorious children (6 of them girls) and 50 years combined of monogamous and monotonous dating then marriage. They are centered on their wives and children. But both felt a burden and a calling to share their life experiences regarding female wants and male desires. And we both were really bored with our jobs. Our hope is a better understanding and relationship prosperity for the readers. It is a handbook, to be read and reread, as you navigate the complexities of a relationship in today’s difficult world. Ironically, the wants of women and the desires of men have remained the same over the years, despite a world who changes its hairstyle every day. To protect the guilty, we will refer to actual characters as The Gal and as The Guy. Throughout the handbook we have highlighted in bold some Key Points for quick reference. We hope you will laugh, learn, reflect and find it useful. One of our goals as authors of this handbook is to make other people really uncomfortable with themselves and others. Then you will be ready to begin your successful journey!
James Judson & William Scofeld III
Struggle is the essence of being human
To avoid the struggle, is to avoid the humanity
– James Judson